You must be living under a rock if you are not aware of the way Lady Gaga has shaped our current culture. She busted into the music scene over ten years ago with her crazy style and risque lyrics. All the while exuding a confidence many will never have. Lady Gaga has been chosen as one of Barbara Walter’s 10 Most Fascinating People, and is one of the top earning females of my generation. I find it really insane to think that she is just two years older than me.
To continue, in her 32 years, she has been a philanthropist and and activist for so many different movements. She acts, writes, sings, and has been referred to as fashion queen. Is there anything this chick doesn’t do? Oh, did I mention that she is stunningly beautiful? Not in the girl next door pretty kind of way–but the raw, open, doesn’t give a damn about your opinion way. That’s just the way that calls to me.
Her beauty is in her lyrics and resonates in her passions- always fighting for what she believes in. On Sunday, she won an Oscar for Best Original Song for the breakout song “Shallow” in A Star Is Born, and her acceptance speech was everything….
“And if you are at home, and you’re sitting on your couch and you’re watching this right now, all I have to say is that this is hard work. I’ve worked hard for a long time, and it’s not about, you know…it’s not about winning. But what it’s about is not giving up. If you have a dream, fight for it. There’s a discipline for passion. And it’s not about how many times you get rejected or you fall down or you’re beaten up. It’s about how many times you stand up and are brave and you keep on going…”
All day Monday it was all over social media, and each time that I read it my eyes welled with tears. Oh man, how many of you can relate to this? How many of you want so badly to just give up? After 6 months of pursuing your dream, you feel like you’re failing and that’s it, you’re done. You just give up. Geez, I have been there. I wish that I could say that I’m not still there…but I struggle with it on the regular.
Is this dream even worth it? Am I a good enough writer? Does anyone care to read what I’m writing? Do I even care that they don’t care? Who am I doing this for anyway?
You know, the funny thing is that the people that you expect to jump in and support you, aren’t always the first ones to do so. I don’t think it’s too far fetched to say that I think some of them question where my head is at. Why I would spend so much time doing something that isn’t directly affecting my “real” career? Do I really think it’s a good idea to add another project to my plate?
Sure, this isn’t always how its brought up to me. It’s usually just not mentioned at all. I guess if they don’t acknowledge that I’m doing this, then they don’t feel like they have to tell me why they think I’m taking on too much. Now, let me set the record straight in saying that most are so supportive and have loved reading my posts. I am a really lucky lady to have such amazing friends and family. This blog would still be a figment of my imagination if it weren’t for the ones who get it.
They Get What?
They get my drive, my passion, and my unwillingness to become complacent. I am sure that I am called for more. I know that I have experienced things that can help others. I, without a shadow of a doubt know that someday I will have that “a ha” moment and it will all click. Until then, though, things might be complicated.
For me, life has kind of always been a bit complicated. Complicated is where I am comfortable. You see, what the others don’t get is that I love writing. Sometimes my mind is not the easiest place to navigate. Writing helps me get my thoughts out and it clears the fog. Most importantly, I feel that it is very powerful. It has the ability to help and inspire and change the way someone else sees the world. I know that I can have more than one passion and that is okay. Yes, I totally could spend this time cleaning out my basement or Marie Kondo’ing my closet, but right now I really need something that ignites that fire again. Writing does just that.
Light That Fire.
In short, this is why Lady Gaga’s speech spoke to me so much. She hit the nail on the head. Maybe I will never be featured on Today’s parenting blog, or have a NY Times best seller (although those are two stretch dreams of mine), but you better know that I will never stop forging on. I will never stop standing for what I want, and what I know is possible. That’s really all that I can hold myself accountable for. As a result, I keep going. I will continue to give my all in motherhood, in my marriage, to my family and friends, to my pharmacy team, and to my blog… because “there’s a discipline for passion”… and my passion is not something that anyone else can limit.
Friends, find your passion, and get to work. No one else is allowed to rein in that beast other than you, so don’t let them. Stand up for your dreams, be brave, and keep going…
Your Millennial Mama,